Discussions
DISCUSSION PRINCIPLES
The following guidelines are courtesy of Deborah Deemer:
- I am critical of ideas, not people. I challenge and refute the ideas...but
I don’t indicate that I personally reject them.
- I focus on coming to the best decision possible, not on winning.
- I encourage everyone to participate.
- I listen to everyone’s ideas even if I don’t agree.
- I restate what someone has said if it is not clear to me.
- I first bring out all ideas and facts supporting all sides, and then
I try to put them together in a way that makes sense.
- I try to understand all sides of the issue.
- I change my mind when the evidence clearly indicates that I should
do so.
Carol B. SchwalbeA sea lion rolls in
the sand to remove flies.
HOW TO PARTICIPATE IN A DISCUSSION
Listen carefully. Tolerate opposing views. Suspend judgment until
all sides have spoken. Realize that often there is no right answer
or conclusion.
These suggestions are from R.G. Tiberius:
- Seek the best answer rather than try to convince other people.
- Try not to let your previous ideas or prejudices interfere with your
freedom of thinking.
- Speak whenever you wish (if you are not interrupting someone else,
of course), even though your idea may seem incomplete.
- Practice listening by trying to formulate in your own words the
point that the previous speaker made before adding your own contribution.
- Avoid disrupting the flow of thought by introducing new issues. Instead,
wait until the present topic reaches its natural end. If you wish to
introduce a new topic, warn the group that what you’re about
to say will address a new topic and that you’re willing to wait
to introduce it until people are finishing commenting on the current
topic.
- Stick to the subject and talk briefly.
- Avoid long stories, anecdotes or examples.
- Give encouragement and approval to others.
- Seek out differences of opinion; they enrich the discussion.
- Be sympathetic and understanding of other people’s views.
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