Croatian Time Bomb
By Caroline Park
I spent a
day in Dubrovnik
with one of our interport students, Masja. “What
do you want to do?” she asked me. I told
her I wanted to do whatever she would normally do
with her
university friends on any given day. So
she took me to Old
Town. As we leisurely strolled along the shiny
marble surface within the City walls, we fell into conversation about
her
family’s experience in the war. I only
had a minimal background on the war so first she proceeded to explain
to me in
the simplest terms what the whole thing had been about.
She told me about Tito, his government and
his refusal to submit to the Soviet Union
as a
satellite state. She told me how things
began to unravel as soon as Tito died. Then
her stories started becoming personal.
Masja had
been young during the war. She admitted
that
she never experienced direct attacks as she had been in Zagreb
at the time and Zagreb
wasn’t bombed as much as other Croatian cities. Although
she had memories of playing cards in the bomb
shelter with her
friends, the physical danger had not been imminent to her.
But the war struck her in a different
way. Indirect but nevertheless
forceful…
Masja’s
mother is of a Serbian background. Although
Masja’s mother had been born in Croatia
and lived in Croatia
all her life, her identity was marked by her Serbian heritage. Masja’s father on the other hand was
Croatian. When the war began, family and
neighbors confronted Masja’s parents about Masja’s mother’s Serbianness. Masja’s mother was told to go back to Serbia
where she belonged and Masja’s father was told to divorce the Serbian
woman. But why would her mother “go
back” to Serbia,
Masja wanted to know. She had never been
there. Even though her family tree and
her papers might reveal her as Serbian, Masja’s mother had lived in Croatia
all her life, in harmony and in peace with her Croatian neighbors until
then. Masja knew of other families who
had experienced a similar dilemma and told me that many of them had
cracked
under the pressure and had split up. Many
husbands and wives divorced due to differing
“bloodlines”—something
that had not mattered before—and many families became casualties of a
war that
promoted ethnic intolerance.
In her essay “All that we had, all that we
were,
reduced to
memories,” where she writes about the atrocities of the war in former
Yugoslavia, Irena Plejic speaks of the family unit as a power that
preserves
humanity in the face of the atrocities of war. “Order
and stability in the family and its completeness,
are considered
to be the essence of human happiness. Anything
can be endured if the family is preserved. No
other loss is so unbearable” (Plejic
234). Masja spoke of many families who
experienced this unbearable loss during the war. Her
own parents’ marriage fortunately
survived and her family is still intact.
“So how is
it now?” I wanted to know. Have things
changed much after the war? Are people
finally learning to live together in peace? I
wanted to hear her say yes, that the war had shown
people how
fruitless and pointless the ethnic classifications were, that people
are people
no matter where bloodline
traces to. But
perhaps the human race has a long way to go. Masja
told me even today at her university some students
do not associate
with other students from differing ethnic heritages.
Perhaps war scars more than it heals and
teaches, the poison penetrating deeper into gapping scars of centuries
of hate
and prejudice.
The Croatia
I saw during my five days there seemed peaceful and beautiful. The physical wreckages of the war had mostly
been restored and by and large people seemed to be living together in
peace. But how much of the peace is
truly deeper than beyond the surface? I
remember somebody saying that the region was still a time bomb waiting
to go
off at any moment again. Will it go off
again one day or will we finally understand that war is not the answer?
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