16 Rules for Conflict Resolution (Fighting Fair)
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1. Negotiate from the Adult position.
2. Avoid ultimatums.
3. If one loses, both lose.
4. Say what you really mean (not generalities)!
5. Avoid accusations and attacks.
6. Own your own feelings first (" I " statements).
7. Always check out your perceptions.
8. State your wishes and requests clearly and directly.
9. Never use sex to smooth over a disagreement.
10. Repeat the message you think you received.
11. Refuse to fight dirty (name-calling, threatening, etc.).
12. Resist giving the silent treatment.
13. Focus on the issue and focus on the present.
14. Call " Time out " and " foul "
15. Use humor and comic relief.
16. Always go for closure.

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