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Vietnamese Pie-Plate
to the Face
Amy
Dewitt
Communication as an
Art
I
do not speak Vietnamese. I prided myself
in scribbling down four sheets of phrases and words and quickly
referring to it
on a regular basis – the pages began to recognize their creases and
folds,
wearing thin. I was not even concerned
about the time it took for me to reach into my pocket, flip through,
skim, flip
over, skim, and then respond with so much enthusiasm that my response
was too
muffled to understand. The concept of
communication
is exciting, but these travel plans are so puddle-jumped that fluency
is not a
reasonable goal, but what do four pages really offer me?
I realized that I had specific restrictions
that I couldn’t salve in a matter of five days. My
muteness expanded beyond language and spanned into
absent-mindedness
on our countries’ historical relations as well. When
communication is teetering at the edge of grasping
and utter
confusion, alternatives to language rise to the occasion…but I didn’t
walk into
these foreign lands with that confidence; it came unexpectedly and out
of
necessity.
1) The
Mekong Delta held such life and beauty. Nature
has no issue with intercultural
communication; it
spoke loud and
clear. I stayed in a river village with
18 other SAS members, sleeping under mosquito nets in a house on stilts. They performed for us – a band of local
farmers. They were bright-eyed, smiley
and barefoot, giggling spirit bouncing off of giggling spirit. Afterward I tried to tell them, “I am very
happy” in Vietnamese – Toy shien shien
– quite unsuccessfully, but maybe my own sparkly eye and toothy grin
said
something.
2)
Sitting in a Can Tho park late in the evening, a group of young teenage
boys
walked past a friend and I. We sent out
a Xin chao to them, and they quickly
assumed we had a whole lexicon of Vietnamese waiting to be spilled out
into
conversation. They motioned for us to
come with them; we followed. They didn’t
speak English, and we definitely didn’t speak Vietnamese.
What next? Each group
frantically searched for alternative forms of
communication. They used hand signals to
invite us to dinner. We used our fingers
to share our ages. We walked the
streets, and both groups filled the silence with songs from our own
cultures
and used varying levels and degrees of giggles and laughter as another
form of
communication.
Last,
and the most exciting and intuitive of the night when all
else failed,
all
other sources of communication utilized, and we lingered on the dock in
further
silence, my friend and I circus balanced. It
was our parting words without words, a parting
performance to their
utter flabbergasted amazement. Maybe it
was ridiculous, maybe it set their minds a-reelin’, but we shared
pieces of
ourselves stretching over boundaries without ever sharing a word. It was genuine, a pure mingling of
cultures.
Vietnam for Dessert
I
left heart and
soul in Vietnam. It was for such a short time – only five days
– but I soaked up as much genuine spirit as I possibly could. The country and the people are engraved into
my mind as “beautiful,” without any question. Why
did this infatuation come from this place? Through
the lens of a half-empty cup: Vietnam
is a
jungle of relentless humidity, overgrown vegetation, crowded waterways,
dangerously chaotic roads, poverty, pollution, and cat-sized rats that
rule the
city streets. I have visited other
countries that have the same conditions, but the impression has not
been as
deep. Why Vietnam?
Vietnam
force-fed me the largest does of honesty that I have had in a long time. It was a pie-plate to the face; the jaded
perception that I have been bumpered into accepting put me in a very
jolting
situation in this country. I remembered
teachers intentionally skipping over sections in our history books on Vietnam
and the
war. I knew people that fought in the
war but were in no state to offer an explanation. While
America
had turned the “Vietnam War” into a commodity not long after the
fighting
ceased, Vietnam
only recently hopped onto the tourism bandwagon, raising many American
hackles
with this new image of an “American War.” Christina
Schwenkel illustrates this difference in
perspective in her
article, “Recombinant History: Transnational Practices of Memory and
Knowledge
Production in Contemporary Vietnam.” Since
this commodification Americans have been
reintroduced to wartime
vernacular, geographical sites, and reopened (often unwillingly) their
eyes to
a new side of the war that for many did not exist prior.
I knew nothing of the two countries’ history
together, and I don’t believe I am alone; I think this ignorance is
common
amongst Americans. I believe that the
view of the “Vietnam War” by Americans is archaic and slow to change
I
lacked any form of intercultural communication with Vietnam prior to
landing on the
shores
of Saigon. I was a clean slate.
This
allowed
me to be wide-eyed and perceptive, unbiased and welcoming. I was
overwhelmed with a freshness – even amongst
filth and poverty – that I have never found anywhere else. My
pre-determined ignorance only opened up my
heart and mind when I was thrown into the Vietnamese
culture; I had no
choice. My communicational skills, even
on a personal level of understanding an intercultural relationship,
were honed
by simply being – just being. A
country that seems to continue on as usual
– hustling and bustling at full speed all around me – communicated its
beauty
through the thickness of pollution and humidity and showed me the truth
about
misconception.
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